How to Seduce a Man
Because seduction techniques are vastly different for men as they are women, we thought we’d post some authoritative material on how to seduce a man. Whether you’re interested in improving your general ability to seduce a man or have a particular man in mind to seduce, you’re in the right place.
To begin to understand how to seduce a man, let’s first examine the seduction techniques that are effective on women but can prove fatal if trying to seduce a man:
- Alpha Female - the common ploy by male pick-up artists to trigger an attraction switch by acting like “Mr. Big” isn’t nearly as effective when trying to seduce a man. Men in general are not turned on by powerful women….it’s definitely an exception rather than a rule.
- Woman of Mystery - while it’s a turn-on to women if men are mysterious in answering initial questions, for men it’s simply annoying if you respond to “Where are you from?” with “Somewhere far away…”. Mystery behind a man is exciting; behind a women it’s suspicious.
- Experienced - men know that women are sought-after and, with age, become experienced. They prefer not to think about it, though! Always minimize your experience with the opposite sex, the exact counter to advice we give to men.
That being said, many rules about how to seduce a man are exactly the same as for the male pick-up artists, or PUA’s, out there. For instance:
- Tension / Playfulness = turn-on! Nothing is more boring and unattractive, to either sex, that a predictable and boring conversation. Who wants to have the same five minute talk that you’ve had with thousands of other people? Nobody! Do yourself a favor and come up with some witty responses to what he’ll ask you. If every Monday he asks about your weekend, have something playful in mind to say!
- Everyone likes a challenge! It’s a fine line to walk to make yourself within reach of someone, but challenging at the same time. But as women, you must master this concept…it is the number 1 fundamental rule that will allow you to seduce any man.
- Social Proof matters. If you’re unfamiliar with the term Social Proof, get familiar with it. One thing that attracts men to supermodel-type women (besides their looks of course) is the fact that every male they know will envy them if they only had that girl on their arm.
Ways to Seduce a Man
Now that we’ve compared similarities and differences, let’s specifically cover how to seduce a man! First off, we’ll talk about a man you know already. It’s important to understand the fact that if you’ve made fundamental mistakes already in your attempts to seduce him, you’ll need to minimize the damage and get back to solid ground. It is only when you are at this level that you can seduce a man.
For instance, in your efforts to seduce a man, did you come on strong? Make it known that you weren’t doing anything on the upcoming weekend? Touch him more than is socially normal? Ask his friends about his availability / feelings toward you? These are mistakes that will take some effort to erase from his mind. The first objective in the seduction in this case will be to erase the damage already done - and then you can prepare yourself to seduce him!
Once you’re on solid ground, or if you’ve just met, we can then begin the steps to methodically seduce a man. For starters, you should relax! Take a deep breath when you’re around him - nobody likes to interact with someone who is stiff, nervous, or try-hard. It’s counter-productive in your efforts to seduce a man. Once you’ve become relaxed, concentrate on the following “feelings” or “vibes”, as they all amplify your attractiveness to nearly every guy on the planet - happy, friendly, approachable, playful, smiling, and well dressed. What is well-dressed, you ask? This is a balancing act, but luckily for you women have an innate sense of how to dress sexy but not slutty. Show a little skin, but not a lot. Contrary to what you see in men’s magazines, men feel more comfortable being seduced by a girl in shorts and a t-shirt than a bikini. Leave something to his imagination - believe me, imagination in men is a well-developed skill! Once you’ve got your look and attitude properly balanced, it’s finally time to seduce a man!
When you want a man to ask you out, it’s imperative to seduce him “beneath his radar”. Men are hunters. Once he knows you’re his, forget it…unless he wants a cheap thrill and then you’ll do for a few hours. Sound harsh? This is harsh but it’s reality, ladies. You must keep your frame about you. The frame of an occasional playful smile, not undressing him with your eyes. Strategically ignoring his comments once in awhile or talking to others in the group, not hanging on his every word. For every one of you who has had the experience of being used & abused, or had the man you thought was “mr. sweetie” pressure you for sex, you should know that you made this mistake earlier…you simply let him know that you were his. You should never make this mistake - once he’s lost respect for you, you become a piece of meat for him. Being enticing yet challenging is the way to seduce a man.
Once you’ve balanced yourself by attracting him but not flattering him, it’s just a matter of time before you catch the man. He will ask you out, it’s just a matter of when. If you feel that plenty of time has passed & you’re losing hope, there are a couple of gambits you can try (but only as last resort!). Mention (through 3rd person preferably) something about a date you had recently. Nothing good or bad about the person, just an activity you did. This is important. If he hears you had a good date last weekend, it could scare him off. If it was bad, he might be amused. But if he only hears that you “went biking on your date saturday”, that will really peek his interest! Believe me, he’ll have 1000 questions about it, and you’ve increased your “Social Proof” by being in-demand by men. Be careful not to get caught in this game, though - it’s fatal if not done properly.
When you’re looking for ways to seduce a man, it’s important to realize that it’s a different ball game than female seduction. While some aspects are nearly identical, others couldn’t be more far apart. Remember to always relax, remain a playful challenge, and be sexy without being slutty. Do these things, while being yourself, and you can soon start inventing your own ways to seduce a man!