Mike is an American serviceman currently stationed in Germany. Also having lived in UK for 8 years, he has a unique perspective on European Seduction. His favorite countries to meet women include Czech Republic, Poland, Slovenia, and Croatia.
While it is literally impossible to cover such a subject as shagging women in one short article, I’d like to at least lay down a framework today that gives you a fundamental look at how to consistently and successfully shag women. When I say “shag women”, I’m not talking about juggling multiple partners, being a phone number master, changing your entire lifestyle to foster being reborn as a ladies man. Instead, I want to talk about what happens between the time you leave your hotel room in the evening for a night out, and the moment you’re returning with a beautiful girl on your arm later that night. Simply what happens in those few magic hours in between is the topic of today’s discussion.
First and foremost, your mindset must be correct. It must be aligned with the stars, so to speak. Your confidence should be radiating from your being the entire night, and you must have a “can’t lose” mindset. OK, I know that many of you are probably asking yourselves - how do I achieve this frame of mind? Truth is, there is no one magic answer for everyone. Sometimes it’s your friends who keep your confidence down or keep you emotionally distracted from the goal - if that’s the case, choose to go out alone if necessary. You can always hang out with buddies on Sunday afternoon instead. It’s better to be alone and correctly aligned than with a sabotaging group of AFC’s during primetime. For others, maybe it’s general lack of confidence that hinders you. There is a ton of knowledge online about amping up your confidence, so I won’t go into detail here, but I highly recommend hypnosis mp3’s - I have a few 10-30 minute confidence hypnosis audio files that I regularly use to create a winner’s mindset before gaming. In 20 minutes, I can completely forget about anything stressful, and begin radiating the type of confidence that women crave. It works for me…find something that is similarly effective for you and use it.
When you’re out “fishing” for girls, there is no excuse for not talking to at least 10 women during the night. It’s nearly impossible to talk to 10 different women & get shot down by all of them. Chances are, one of the first three will show you interest, and a connection will take place. If you have the 10-minimum target in mind though, it will keep you on pace for a can’t-lose night. If I go out and don’t talk to 10 girls AND don’t hook up, I consider the night a failure. Otherwise, it’s a success no mater what happens.
If you’re in a bad scene, move on! On a typical Friday night in a typical city, you have 3-4 hours of primetime women hunting. Like any respectable fisherman will move his
boat after a few minutes of inactivity, a pickup artist must change venues if the current odds are out of his favor. I don’t mean constant bar-hopping, I mean give a place 10-15 minutes and if you have no opportunities - move on. Dead time ruins momentum, while the precious prime-time minutes ticking away. 10pm to 2am, generally speaking, are the golden hours for a pickup artist. If you’re not talking to women during these hours, you’re doing something wrong!
Make pressure-free approaches. When you go up to a group of a single target, you should be relaxed, your energy and confidence literally radiating out as you begin to speak. Personally, I use neutral openers, like PUA Style, to create can’t-lose approaches. If you ask a girl her opinion on something, and she blows you out, it says more about her than it does you. After all, you’re merely being social and she’s putting up her defensive walls for reasons only she knows. Move on - don’t ever allow a bitch shield to dent your game…if it does you’re giving strangers (men or women) WAY too much power over you. Simply refuse to allow strangers to affect your mood. Makes sense, doesn’t it?
By going in neutral, you can unleash your charm “beneath her radar”, so to speak. You can literally, with cute expressions and playful banter, begin casting an attraction spell on the women before she knows what hit her. I know many guys these days are into “Direct Game”. While I respect the honesty of this style, the girls I tend to go for simply don’t respond to this guns blazing approach. I find it much more natural to simply approach women as though they’re old friends. The type of women I go for respond to this with friendliness and openness. If she doesn’t, I know that she’s not my type and simply move on. And if I’m sticking to my 10 women rule, she’s probably woman 1 or 2, something that’s easy to get over!
Be charming. While this sounds like something obvious, I know SO many guys out there who, when given 5 minutes at a table with girls, will go through the most boring line of questions ever devised. Ask a girl to verbally go through her work resume or talk about her history or family, and you’ll get exactly that - facts. And within 10 minutes the conversation will eventually evolve into either friend zone, or even worse, her looking around the room for a “real man”…someone who can actually provide some excitement. Some verbal kung-fu, so to speak. Women love stimulating conversation. Be stimulating and your game will go through the roof. Read current news articles. Learn “chick crack” material. Do you know how to read palms? Analyze handwriting? Magic tricks? Good jokes? Trust me, once you learn a few of these, you’ll find plenty of opportunity to use them - not only to game chicks but also to warm up a cold table of friends, make your boss laugh at a company party, almost anywhere. Learn some material and practice it.
While I despise the mantra “Make the Ho Say No”, I do in principle follow this guidance. I plow ahead with a woman until she either makes it stunningly clear that she’s not interested, or her lips are rewarding me for my efforts! Within 20-30 minutes of my opening, I better have my arm around her, my hand on her thigh, or else have already made out with her. If not, I recognize the fact that I’m off course and either make a gamble (such as “let’s go to my place - it’s too loud in here”), or else I move on if I think it’s a lost cause. Many of my mates will spend 2-3 hours talking to a single girl all night, and go home in the end with a number, real or fake. I say that’s a wasted night if your aim is to shag.
The single way to truly tell if a girl is open to shagging, is to touch her. Early and often! Begin by soft touching on her upper arm or lower back during laughter or light moments
while talking. These touches, though innocent and risk-free, will tell you 1000 words about how open she is. Does she lean into you? Return your touches? Or does she flinch and pull back? This simple method will tell you all you need to know, and prevent you from wasting precious prime-time hours on a cold fish. There are many girls out there who simply live for turning on guys and basking the attention of AFC’s all night, only to laugh with their girlfriends later about all the lame advances made on them. Don’t be one of these poor sheep! If she doesn’t respond to your touching, find one who does.
When the body language is right and your advances are returned, you’ve won at the gambling tables & the only thing left is to cash in your chips! It’s simply a matter of confidently leading her to your lair. The only option is that if she’s not quite ready or hesitant, you can take her to a pre-selected place to finish off her resistance and win her over. Ideally, this should either be a quiet bar with proper mood (dark lighting, quieter music), or a park near your hotel / flat. It is in these places that you convince her you’re a trust-worthy guy, and in less than an hour you should have a 100% conversion rate at getting them into your bed. If they’re willing to go to this place with you, it’s simply a matter of finishing off any light resistance you encounter.
Covering the subject of how to shag a woman is simply impossible in one article. And those of you wanting more details on effective methods of shagging women should check out EuropePUA’s Seduction Bible. Hopefully the topics covered today have caused you to question your own personal seduction tactics, and perhaps recognize weak areas of your game. Having a proper mindset and keeping the goal in mind are two fundamental pillars of shagging. And hopefully, if you follow this playbook as well as the EuropePUA Seduction Guides, you’ll soon be able to shag any woman you chose!